I need to change my life but dont know how
By AAwosika07 Uncategorized. Click here for more details. Oh, did I mention I dropped out of school when I only needed three credits to graduate? I drank 7 nights a week and tried every drug imaginable other than the big three — crack, heroin, and meth. I hit bottom.
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I want to tell you something, but it actually hurts. In fact, if someone tells me this, I might get hurt too. I will probably show a resistance in the beginning. Still, I am going to tell you because I know it will be more painful if I just shut up. I want to be honest to you as a friend who cares. We are not related at all.
But you see, something inside is urging me to write this. Maybe it is meant to be written for you. One thing is for sure — I have your best interest in mind. After college, I immediately had a plan — apply to my dream institution and give my best shot, so they will hire me again. It turned out the way I like it. They rehired me, gave me an extra position, received a promotion and loved by coworkers and clients. Sound like a dream, right? It was everything that a budding professional can ask for.
I was happy with all those. I was single anyway. I heard a lot of good things from people who retired there. When everything seemed smooth, at least for me, life presented a new adventure. I met a wonderful guy who was thousand miles away, visited me, fell in love, migrated to a country and married him. Sounds like a happy ending! But wait, what happened to my professional life? Start from scratch, of course.
While my love life is overflowing with happiness, a different area of my life was being attacked. I suddenly had no career and zero family and friends to confide with. I was naive to my new place. I felt frustrated with my slow adjustment. I got imprisoned by my past life. And so, I became complacent.
My motivation dwindled down and productivity went out of the window. I slept most of the days, and then I hated everyone around me. The poor husband absorbed all my resentments. He wants to do everything to make me happy. The problem lies within me. The poison of feeling entitled that my husband can provide everything. I am embarrassed admitting this.
I want a change. I want to break the monotony. But the positive spirit I used to have gone away. I became a Queen of Excuses.
So for two years, nothing happened in my life. I performed well as a wife, but I still long for something that will make me productive again. I spent my days crying and feeling sorry for my situation. I continued the blaming game. A day came when I looked at myself in the mirror and saw a different version of me. I saw how defeated I looked like. I saw the desperation in my eyes. I saw a pitiful person. I realized I am sick and tired of my situation. Not because of my husband, but because of not fulfilling things that I know I can.
And that day, I made a promise:. I will be in a better position. I will be few steps closer to my goals. That promise motivates me to take action up to this day. No one replaces spouse if they are happy with each other. No one quits the job when they find it fulfilling. No one gets frustrated when everything seems perfect. People only desire to change when they are sick of the situation. The problem is: most of them only desire.
Maybe you are sick and tired of your debts, your job that drains you, your hurtful relationship, your health and weight, your level of performance or your monotonous routine. Maybe you are sick and tired of staying with your in-laws, squeezing in the budget up to the last cent, hearing the same negative comments over and over or falling short on things you can do. Whatever it is, I want to tell you that it is not meant to be forever.
Only if you choose not to accept your current status quo. Change is possible only when you recognize something has to change. Being tired where you are right now is a good place to be because it means that you are ready to see something better. Many successful people once became sick and tired too. How desperate are you to get up? How determined are you to change your circumstance?
Fyodor Dostoevsky wrote this hours after nearly being executed by a firing squad:. Life is a gift, life is happiness, every minute can be an eternity of happiness. It feels like constantly swimming in the sea of emotions. No matter how much you swim, the waves keep tossing you back.
But like the waves, emotions subside. You can get out of that my friend. Do not accept that situation forever. I never thought of any change when I was at the peak of my happiness. It was only when I got sick and tired that I was able to identify my priorities. It was only then that I realized my heart is set to do something else. It was only then that I saw the true values I hold dear. It was only when I felt an intense desperation that forced me to take action.
Recognize the fact that your performance now does not cater to your expectations. Do you know where your frustrations come from? From your beliefs and knowledge about your performance. You still allow your excuses to dictate what you can do. What is it that makes you sick and tired?
For how long can you endure this situation? A young guy asked his father for his inheritance. After receiving it, he went to a far country and squandered his wealth in wild living. When he had no money left, he worked for someone to feed his pigs. He suddenly thought of his father. He remembered his servants eating three meals a day and there he was, starving to death. While he was still a long way off, his father saw him, ran out and embraced him. Before he could finish what he had to say, the father asked the servants to bring him the cleanest robe and prepared a feast for him.
When you experience so much pain and frustration, you can either act on it or allow it. You can act on it and you might experience change in a positive way like what happened to the young guy. But when you allow it, then you will likely end up in the same spot where you are right now.
The spot where you starve yourself when you own more capabilities to help you rise up. You have a more fulfilling life that awaits you if you know how to humble yourself and be ready for a change. People still choose to stay where they are because they are accustomed to doing it for so long. They are willing to put up with it until time disappears from their hands.
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Climb out of that hole with sweat beads on my forehead and dirt under my fingernails. Many years ago when I first started suffering from depression, I thought my depression was a disease of the brain that had struck me out of nowhere. All I knew was that I was so unhappy I barely wanted to be alive anymore. So I went to the doctor and got a prescription for antidepressants. And I got myself a therapist and talked about my life for 50 minutes every Wednesday at 7pm.
You’re Stuck Because You Don’t Know How To Change Your Life
The reason people tend to stay stuck in their circumstances, is because they expect change to come from outside of them, rather than from within. It is as though they are waiting for permission to move forward when they must first take action themselves. They may begin with great momentum, though a month later they are back to a familiar routine. Change must come from within; even the smallest step forward is enough to propel you in the right direction. This step can create the greatest change in your life, but must be accompanied by well-intentioned objectives. Stepping out of your comfort zone, digging deep, stirring up passion, and going for it with all you have. Have you considered why some people are successful and others are not? Successful people work towards their goals and understand that hard work and wisdom pays off.
How To Change Your Life When You’re Sick Of It
I want to tell you something, but it actually hurts. In fact, if someone tells me this, I might get hurt too. I will probably show a resistance in the beginning. Still, I am going to tell you because I know it will be more painful if I just shut up.
I bought your new book and read it. Do I focus on trying to tame the budget? Lose weight?
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You are not alone. You found your way here because you want the pain to stop , you want to sleep at night , you want to move ahead. Get moving. No kidding.
Imagine feeling trapped in an unsatisfying existence. Being afraid to express your uniqueness. Having fun on the weekends then dreading the upcoming week. Then something hit me. It was a proverbial hammer to my head.
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For many years I wanted to make a lot of big changes in my life, but unsurprisingly felt stuck and unsure of how to actually go about making change. I admired and envied certain other individuals for their strengths. It seemed like everyone around me knew their goals, how to balance their commitments and were constantly evolving. I knew that in order for me to find my inner happiness I would need to get unstuck, which would include getting over my biggest failing: not believing in myself and my capacity to change. So I asked myself the only question any of us can ask when we are trying to shift gears in our lives: Where should I begin?
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